The other day I had a very important meeting with several CEOs who were tackling a major social issue together. I was going to share research that could really spur them into action. I went to bed early the night before, got up early, ate well, reviewed the presentation again. I was early to the meeting, and I wore my best suit. Just a few minutes before I was going to enter the meeting, I decided to hit the restroom...I wanted no distractions during the crucial presentation. Again, this was important meeting. Wouldn't you know, but as I zipped-up my fly, the zipper got stuck.
Ok I said to myself, I did eat pretty well during the holidays, but this is a friggin Paul Smith suit, the zipper should work. I didn't panic, I tried to jiggle the zipper. It broke.
Ok I said to myself, the zipper's broke, but its not that bad, I just have to pop it back in. I didn't panic, I tried to pop it back in but I didn't know how to do that.
Ok I said, I can fix this...I'll just calmly go out to the lobby, and ask for a safety pin. Which I did, and that's when the administrative assistant said the CEOs were ready for me. I didn't panic, I asked for the safety pin, retreated to an office figuring I had about 30 sec. to clip my pants. I laughed, "this is kind of like a bad movie, a funny bad movie." The safety pin was just to damn small, and "hmmm, why are my hands shaking?"
That's when I started to panic. I asked for and received a very large safety pin, which I clipped on, and looking down, realized that I looked ridiculous. I had made the problem worse because the silver pin might as well have been a neon sign pointing at my crotch. I started running through scenarios....
1) I could leave, just bail, there was enough coverage that I would not be missed, I wasn't CRUCIAL to the meeting.
2) I could go in without the safety pin, but how was I going to go around and shake hands with my fly wide open?
3) I could....
Just then my scenario planning was interrupted by the admin staff who suggested I try one of their loaner suit jackets on. If it was big enough, I could close the jacket and it would cover my crotch. Hallelujah it seemed I would be saved!
Ok I said, I'll try the jacket. Even though it ruined my finely English-tailored image, I was willing to compromise here. And now I was definitely late. The jacket was too small and didn't do the job. Now I really panicked. That was it, scenario 2, 3, and 4 were off the table and I was just going to bail. I sighed with disappointment. The very reason I moved to DC and took this job was to make a difference. I've presented to CEOs plenty of times before, but never on an important social issue. I tried to console myself with the fact that there would be other opportunities.
And then my pity party was interrupted once again by the admin staff with a suggestion. "Why don't you take your jacket off and hold it in front of your pants as you enter the room, and then just sit down quickly."
The simplicity of the solution was astonishing. I felt like as if a Zen master had rapped me over the head to achieve a moment of clarity. I thanked the admins profusely and entered the meeting all smiles. The meeting went well and I left later with no one the wiser except my colleagues and the staff.
As I sat listening to the CEOs debate strategy, I couldn't help but analyze my wardrobe malfunction. Certainly the episode had something to teach me. I realized that while I was bravely trying NOT to panic, to stay calm and rational, it was my own perceived rationality that was nearly my undoing. I kept trying to attack the problem directly even though I was unprepared to solve it. Let's see how.
1) I wasn't a tailor, and 2) I didn't have the resources, but I blindly kept trying to solve the problem on my own. 3) I didn't really ask for help, when I did, I asked for the solution that
I thought was right--the over-sized safety pin--and I was wrong.
It turns out that the best solution came when I gave up control over the situation and let others in to collaborate. Also, solving the problem required "going around", or taking an indirect route. And finally, it required native knowledge.
The admins in just two recommendations solved the problem. First the coat, then my jacket should be used to cover my wardrobe malfunction. In fact they came up with an even more elegant solution. When I picked up my folio, they suggested I just use that and keep my coat on for the meeting.They completely bypassed trying to fix the zipper itself. This is an excellent example of obliquity. Economist
John Jay expresses
obliquity as the principle that complex goals are best achieved indirectly.
"Obliquity is necessary because we live in an world of
uncertainty and complexity; the problems we encounter aren’t always
clear – and we often can’t pinpoint what our goals are anyway;
circumstances change; people change – and are infuriatingly hard to
predict; and direct approaches are often arrogant and unimaginative."
I arrogantly assumed I could solve the problem without the help of the admin staff--who surely must have come up against wardrobe malfunctions in the past. Whatsmore, the staff knew the layout of the boardroom and thus knew that I could enter relatively easily, with a very short trip to my chair to lower the risk of my inadvertently exposing myself. But I will never forget the turning point in my own behavior that gave me the confidence to go ahead with their plan. The admin said to me, "Joel, leaving may be the smart thing to do, but you'll really regret later that you didn't just go in now."
The admin realized that I couldn't see the big picture, that the wardrobe malfunction was actually a rather minor thing, and easily solved. In my various attempts and failures, I was behaving predictably irrational and thus on the verge of depriving myself of a very valuable opportunity.
So, what are the lessons here that strategists and planners can take away from my wardrobe malfunctions?
First, if you are in the business of problem-solving, get help, its very unlikely that you're the expert, and sometimes you only have to look around to realize you're surrounded by experts with native knowledge based on prior experience.
Two, the best solution maybe an indirect one, where you attack the problem by NOT taking it head-on, but instead shaping your solution around the context of the problem instead of the functional mechanics of the problem.
Three, problem solving requires an objective outsider's POV on occasion. Rationality is subjective and while you may think you are providing a well-considered solution, you may in fact be behaving quite irrationally and need a reset (my zen moment). And that this is likely to come from someone else observing your challenge. This is a simple forest-for-the trees approach.
Incidentally, I did admit to being rather embarrassed about the whole thing, but not until AFTER the proper solution presented itself. Another indication that I was behaving irrationally--I wouldn't humble myself to ask for help. I believe this was because I was going into a room full of CEOs. What if it had been people with less status, say a room full of mechanics or the very admins who helped me? I think I was influenced by who I was going to see to a degree that I thought I would display the confidence of a CEO in solving the problem. You know, this happens when you prepare yourself to impress someone. You adopt
what you perceive is their attitude and behavior a little. And therein lay my downfall, because no good self-respecting CEO would do what I did. They would survey the landscape, examine several routes before acting to avoid making the situation worse, ask for or command help immediately, and preferably from an "insider" with native knowledge. Or at least I LIKE to think that's how a CEO would behave.
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